Welcome! Here you will find award-winning author and entrepreneur Carl Frankel’s thoughts about culture and politics, sex and relationships, the craft of writing, and more.

“Only connect,” the novelist E.M. Forster wrote over a century ago. But to what? To others, of course, and to our own selves, and to the truths that are out there, beyond the din of our culture.

Wisdom over passion, passion over emptiness, emptiness over wisdom.

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The Epistemic Closure Blues

I’ve got the epistemic closure blues. This infernal need to create an ‘Other!’ It’s here, it’s there, it’s everywhere. The anger spills and ends up there. E-closure is a mother. Demonize! Dehumanize! Our views are always true, of course. Of course their views are lies. I’ve got the e-closure blues. I look to the right […]

The Problem with Porn

For centuries if not longer, sex has been fraught. It’s seen as a rich, deep and mysterious experience, as one of the most powerful and significant experiences we humans can have. You go to bed with someone and who knows what will happen? Intense emotions may arise. Intense sensations may be felt. Hey—it just might drive you crazy. Yeah, she could […]

What Is Sacred Sexuality?

I’m a writer. It friggin’ offends me when words are used in a slapdash way, all wrapping and no substance. ‘Spirituality’ is one of the terms that gets my goat. It means such different things to different people, and it often doesn’t really mean anything at all—it’s as hollow as a vain man’s ego. ‘Sacred sexuality’ is […]

These Voices in My Head

In a recent post, I noted how, as I writer, I try to be sensitive to boundaries. This is true—but there’s another side of the coin, as is so often the case. As a writer, I waltz over boundaries all the time. In fact, it’s in my job description! Writers write. Readers read. There’s a big gap […]

The Non-Violent Writer

Non-violent writing is a theme I suspect I’ll probably return to in the time ahead. I live with the topic constantly. Let’s start by unpacking what the term means to me. Non-violent writing is an odd phrase and indeed an odd notion. It suggests there’s such a thing as ‘violent writing,’ and what in the world is that? Our first […]