Entries by Carl Frankel

Have You Fallen Out of Love?

Love: the word means different things to different people—and different things to the same person at different times. What’s in a word? Here are some meanings of “love:” Erotic love. We all know what this one means. It’s what we mean when we say we’re “in love.” It’s “I want to have your babies”–or sometimes just […]

Kickstarter Campaign for ‘Vagina Fitness Tracker’ Nears $250,000 — Are Sex Experts Laughing or Applauding?

Courtesy of Kickstarter, a new … something has come to our attention—the cleverly named KGoal. You put this, uh, thing in your vagina—it looks suspiciously like a sex toy, but it’s not—and it measures how you’re doing when you contract and release your pelvic floor muscles. How strong are your muscles? Are you actually contracting […]

Young, Left, and Claiming the Right To Smoke Pot, Have Smokin’ Sex, and Pursue Ecstasy

Old men say, “Stay off my lawn!” The Millennial generation of young adults says, “Stay out of my bedroom.” And: “Keep your hands off my bong!” A recent study by the respected Pew Research Center found that while young people continue to be heavily Democratic, compared to older generations their liberal values are more libertarian […]

Meant for Each Other? Hell, No!

Sometimes social psychology research states the obvious. Like, if you set impossibly high standards for a relationship, you’re likelier to feel that you’re failing. This is basically the conclusion of a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology by Norbert Schwarz and the improbably named Spike W.S. Lee (“Yo’, Spike, how’s tenure working […]

Sex, Love, Conscious Relationships and Founding Our Country

Q: What do the Founding Fathers and partners in an intimate relationship have? A: They’re both in the business of country creation. There are differences, obviously. The Founding Fathers were focusing on kickin’ some British ass. That’s not what intimate couples do (although there’s probably an exception out there somewhere. “Hey, Martha, down with the […]

Welcome to Sex World. And Hardcore Discrimination.

I live in Sex World. My partner Sheri does, too. (It’s a good place, Sex World. We like it here.) Wild-stop orgies? Nope. 24/7 obsessing about southerly parts? Not that, either. By Sex World, I mean something far less sensationalistic. Sex World is a cultural and professional territory that’s been segregated from other areas that are viewed as less threatening. […]